Starting Over

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Anyone who has lost a job can tell you that the experience ranks right down there with death of a loved one or a break-up. Call it whatever you want: Downsizing. Resizing. Redundancy Elimination. Dismissal. To be canned, axed or fumigated — it still affects not only income and a family’s well being but more importantly, one’s own sense of personal worth… but it’s no sin and no disgrace.. It can happen to anyone… Remember: “That which does not kill me, makes me stronger!”

Paulo Coelho has wonderfully put it in words:

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.
Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.

Did you lose your job?

You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened.

You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that.
But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved. Everyone is finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.

Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away.

That is why it is so important however painful it may be! To just let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them.

Nobody plays this life with marked cards, sometimes we win and sometimes we lose.
Do not expect anything in return; do not expect your efforts to be appreciated or your genius to be discovered.

Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.

Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back.
Remember that there was a time when you could live without that job – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need.
Close those cycles — not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because it no longer fits your life.

Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, and shake off the dust.

Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.!

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  1. Reblogged this on I am Storyteller and commented:

    Anyone who has lost a job can tell you that the experience ranks right down there with death of a loved one or a break-up. Call it whatever you want: Downsizing. Resizing. Redundancy Elimination. Dismissal. To be canned, axed or fumigated — it still affects not only income and a family’s well being but more importantly, one’s own sense of personal worth…

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